Marriage is downplayed, sex is exalted, intimacy is diverted and perverted, but does this mean these subjects should be off limits?
If people understood the full meaning of marriage, it would be difficult for people to be o.k. with meaningless intimacy just to get an orgasm. Before we dive into the depths of this topic, let's explore the meaning of "fullness." What does it mean to experience something in its entirety?
When a full Symphony Orchestra performs in a grand opera house, there is a surge inside our spirits, an acknowledgement that the whole score of music was meant to be done like this, with every instrument played with skill and grace, in a space that amplifies and uplifts each tone, in a setting worthy of presenting such music. Imagine experiencing a live performance of Beethoven's Symphony No. 5 in C Minor, Opus 67, one of the best-known compositions in classical music (most people know it as the "Dun Dun Dun Dun" song). The first sounds heard are the powerful roaring strings and then the flutes come in, joined by the oboes, clarinets, bassoons, horns, trumpets and the two timpani, and before you know it, the first movement is complete. As the Symphony Orchestra plays in unity, there is a fullness that the audience experiences and is able to receive from the score.
Now imagine experiencing the same score but this time, it's fragmented, strings play by themselves, stop and stutter to continue, a bassoon somewhere in the distance is playing with no rhythm….etc. Instead of hearing the entire orchestra the audience is stuck hearing poorly played, divided instruments. Even though it's the same score, the performance is dimmed, haphazard even, and our experience with the music isn't the same-- it's not life-giving.
The correct, full performance of this amazing Symphony leaves the music in your soul, resonating even as time passes. The whole experience brings life from the inside out, as you gain a deep acknowledgement that the whole score of music was meant to be experienced like this…… I think we all agree that having "fullness" in any life experience means going beyond the "surface level"--you must hit the core understanding, appreciation, and purpose of that experience. Understanding the fullness of marriage is like experiencing that full orchestra: every instrument has its purpose and set of notes to play at a given time, there is harmony in an orchestra just like there is harmony within a marriage.
Too many people are settling for bits and pieces of what should be, for their benefit, a fully assembled orchestra. Marriage is downplayed, sex is exalted, intimacy is diverted and perverted, but does this mean these subjects should be off limits? "Love makes the world go round," so people say, tons of money is poured into marriages every day, sex is every marketers go-to for sales, and there are machines to help you orgasm. So we believe a healthy discussion of these subjects is essential. This is just an intro into a series of writings that explores how sex isn't truly the root issue, marriage is.